I’m seeking repeat closure in a situation from the past that I can’t undo or fix but it’s bubbled to the surface again, so I’m feeling heavy and reflective…… giving it the feelings it deserves amidst all that is happening this week. I’m pausing.
I’m reminding myself that boundaries are necessary and healthy. It took me a long time to learn this skill, but it’s become my norm with several others that showed up when I began living intentionally. I’m not perfect, far from it, but have found a groove that works.
A friend shared some words five years ago when I was dealing with a toxic employee that couldn’t see that SHE was the common denominator in the problems and she needed to not be an employee any longer….
My friend said:
**You are like this fountain of sparkles. Empty people find you and you say “Food is medicine. Let me heal you. Eat this.” But then they see all your other sparkles and whole feeling and they want it too. They grab and beg and you make boundaries and ask them to walk with you…that you won’t carry them, but you will be a positive influence. Like tired toddlers who need a blanket or sippy cup from you, they stomp their feet and have a tantrum.
That’s what I see. A healer who sets boundaries. The sick people are too tired and sick to see past their own….yuck to see how grabby they are.**
Cool when supportive words leave good feelings that stick around long after the trying situation has passed. Glad I found this accidentally today, while trying to heal myself.
Kibby Jardine 